Newsletter–Moving Through Loss and Grief

There is a sacredness in all of the emotions that we feel, as they are signs of life.  The grief that we feel is due to the strength of our love, which is beautifully unspeakable. How can it be thought to be weak to love that deeply? It is a shame that anyone could think so, no? As we awaken we understand that this is just a part of life, but not the only part.  🙂  The ground of our very being is this energy and love that runs the entire universe.  And that is powerful to know and experience.

Lots of good stuff and news in this week’s newsletter, check it out here


Newsletter–Musings on Reincarnation

Enjoy this week’s newsletter, and happy b day to me–still a chance for you to take advantage of my b day sale but ya gotta jump on that now, more details in the newsletter.

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This week’s Energetic Forecast: I am sure many of you noticed the total lunar eclipse in Aries on Sunday.  How that affected you will depend on where Aries falls in your natal chart, but lunar eclipses are usually about endings and clearings.  You may feel a lot more clear now than you have in a while that some part of your life has been held back, and you now know why and what for.  This is a good thing, although many people don’t like change or surprises, everyone knows that is how the universe works–you are better off going with the flow that presents itself now.
 I was re-watching Rick Levine’s take on September and it struck me when he said Sept is about “adapting to change while not losing our center.”  That’s perfect. The effects of eclipses are long lasting with a six month window so expect the effects to linger. Still in Mercury retro until Oct 9th, which is basically a “are you sure you know what you are doing?” effect.  We have Mars and Jupiter in Virgo which is willing to work step by step, Saturn in Sag which is making sure we are ready to make real changes.  You may feel like hitting the gas and the brake which is also a good analogy, so take your time, don’t panic, and keep center.
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Journey to Spiritual Partnerships: Soul Connections and the Evolution of Love Pittsburgh Workshop!

Journey to Spiritual Partnerships:

Soul Connections and the Evolution of Love

Sunday Aug 2nd


First United Methodist Church, Fellowship Hall

5401 Centre Ave., Pittsburgh, PA 15232

This in-depth, interactive workshop is a must for learning about the new relationship templates that are forming with the current shift of consciousness on our planet from 3D to 4D and beyond. If you want to understand a soul connection experience such as a karmic soul mate, soul mate, twin flame, or soul catalyst, this is for you. If you are ready to go deep with your own personal growth journey and really do the work to grow in self love and love in relationships, the exercises in this class will jumpstart you in the right direction. If you are looking to open yourself to a new spiritual partnership, we will talk about how to do this through self work.  If you have had the difficult experience of dealing with unhealthy people and relationship patterns, we will discover the deeper meanings and lessons inherent in this experience.   This workshop is a synthesis of past teachings on soul connections, new insights from my personal experience as a twin flame and from my clients, as well as what I just taught in Lily Dale this summer.  It is the complete package of my learning, research, personal experience and coaching experience since I have explored the subject of spiritual partnerships beginning in 2008.  I am passionate about this subject and helping everyone to shift successfully into the beautiful understanding of self love and love for others.  This workshop will spark deep insights and heart openings through a combination of practical theory, reflective exercises, meditations to shift energy, and many other spiritual tools.

Soul Mates 101

“You don’t give love in order to get love, you give love in order to become love” –Apollo Poetry


Ah, soul mates.  Can’t live with them (many times,) can’t live without them (all the time.)  What is this crazy phenomenon?  A lot has been written on this subject, and it can fall into several categories.  The popular understanding of the term is more of a myth than a reality.  The myth goes something like this: We have one shot to get it right in this lifetime, with our ONE and ONLY soul mate, the one who will make our lives complete, and is our perfect compliment.  If you are soul mates, you are destined to be together….forever!  Once you find that person, you will experience never ending bliss for the rest of your life, and your relationship will finally work the way it was meant to work…easy, idyllic, no work required, effortless harmony, and you will be enlightened with all of your spiritual voids filled.  This is a myth–a cultural story–and it even has an advertising program that wants you to buy into this philosophy.  It may sell some perfume, but what I am talking about is more about personal experiences and patterns in the process of personal development.  And, no disrespect here, but programs that promise to find your soul mate in 30 days—it is not that simple.  It happens when you are ready for it.

This is most definitely, a MYTH.  Why?  First, we have many soul mates.  Once you get started on the soul mate/ relationship as a spiritual path, you will probably have a succession of soul mates.  I personally have a count of about 7.  Although there is great compatibility with soul mates,  and they may very well be a perfect fit, the relationship (if there is one) is not meant to make your life complete.  Soul mates are not necessarily destined to be together forever.  Because the connection is so strong, it is very easy to think that because of its depth, it is therefore everlasting.  Some people are able to make it work with their soul mates, but not without the great amount of inner work and personal development that a deep connection requires.  Many times, soul mates are not meant to be in your life for as long as you may want them to.  Many times, one or both of you are not able to do what it would require for you to be together.  That is not the fault of Madame Destiny, it is just simply, life and its challenges.  And life’s lessons.


Soul mates are meant to help you grow, deeply grow, and to “give love so you can become love.”  It is a profoundly challenging relationship that is not for the faint of heart or a die-hard romantic.  It changes YOU, on the inside.  And as you change, what is vibrationally a fit now, may not always be so.  Because, we are always changing.  As the Buddha would say, the nature of life is impermanent.


Now that we have the myth out of the way, here is a pretty good, spiritual interpretation of what happens here.  It is part of the Law of Attraction, that soul mates are drawn in by your soul’s essence, who you really are at a deep level, your vibrational level, and your karma.  I don’t mean karma as in, this is your punishment for evils done in a past life! Karma can be considered to be, what keeps you from floating off this earth plane into a cloud of total enlightenment.  It is what keeps you learning lessons, the stuff of karma is your lessons, your issues, what needs to be cleared that keeps you from knowing that you are one with God and everything in this universe. Karma is your “stuff.”  Deep, huh?


Soul mates show you your “stuff.”  There is perfect analogy for this, and it is called, funny enough, “mirroring.”  Soul mates lift up a big mirror for you to look in, so that you can know thyself more deeply.  This is a two-way mirror, so you are also doing this for said beloved.  Now, to an extent, all relationships do this.  What makes soul mates so special?  Well, soul mates rev it up a notch, stomp full-fledged on the gas pedal, and COMPEL you to do your work, in a very intense way, that is hard to ignore.  Soul mates got your attention, all right.

This is why I teach that all soul mates are “romantic” in that sense.  Because even th0ugh all relationships are important, and you may love your dog or goldfish very much, they are not going to do this for you.  And the connection that you have to your friends and family may be deep and wonderful, but they don’t have this kind of impact on you in quite the same way.  Also, there are special dynamics and patterns in the soul mate connection that are custom-designed to shoot your soul in a rocket booster towards a very deep awakening.  A sexual and romantic component, for lack of a better descriptor, is a powerful forceful motivator and soul connector.  The feeling of wanting to unite male and female polarities is very strong.  By this I am talking about the masculine and feminine energies of the universe, not physical sex or bodies.  This is a different kind of connection from others in your soul group.  Please see my post, Signs of a Soul Mate or Twin Flame for the common indicators and patterns that I am talking about.


So what is a soul mate?  An energetic SOUL-based tie to another human being.  If you are familiar with the concept of energy centers or chakras, we can say that the common connection points are the sacral, heart, and third eye chakras.  Soul mates may delude themselves or deny that the connection goes both ways, but a soul mate connection is not unrequited love.  A person may have varying levels of awareness about the existence of the connection, but it  is not one-sided.  It is pretty much hard to ignore for both people.


Secondly, a soul mate connection is a spiritual, deep connection with a soul that COMPELS you to grow and learn lessons about yourself, love and relationships.  You can also think of it as a soul “contract,”  that involves the learning and teaching of lessons, which may have past life ties, and there are always lesson themes.  What are these lessons?  That is for you to find out, but many common ones are:  abandonment, personal integrity and honesty, insecurity, leaving situations and relationships that no longer work for you, fear of commitment, and even, fear of love.  You would be surprised, but many people faced with the prospect of unconditional love, are bewildered and terrified of actually having it.  Many soul mate lessons, more simply put, require that you make a choice between the polar opposites of fear and love.  In the big picture of soul development, we are all learning the difference between unconditional love and egoic love.


I must stress that soul mate connections are not always about the relationship.  This is where we get hooked on the concept of the relationship, and not about its real purpose–which is our own growth as a soul.