Truths about the Twin Flame Journey

The twin flame journey is ineffable, fundamentally indescribable, a zone that is hard to put words to.  It is sublime, even though many of the world’s great love stories are based upon it, those myths and archetypes are bits and pieces of floating ephemera in comparison to the real thing.  You only know it when you are in it, and you only see it in others when you have witnessed it in yourself.

I don’t mean this in a romantic love story kind of way.  No, it is beyond.  Take whatever you know about love, and the twin flame experience is still further beyond comprehension.

Take your current limitations and declarations of “I can’t” and smash them up against the wall.  Take your understanding of the time space continuum and the beliefs about how your world operates and what you think is possible and trash them.

When you see the truth of what twin flame love is, it is like Paul being struck off his horse by the bolt of God. Imagine that light of truth striking you in the face, surrounding you and infusing you with a kundalini transformation.  That is how Saul became Paul, and every Saul twin flame will become Paul.  It is only a matter of time.

The truth is it is the most mystical, frightening, amazing AND hardest connection you will ever have.  You will be pushed beyond any limitation you have constructed in your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual bodies.

There is no “I can’t.”  And that is the truth about the words, like unconditional love, that we throw around.

It will require you to be utterly alone, digging into the recesses of your unconsciousness for clues to heal yourself.  It will require you to scoop up your inner child off the floor and hold her screaming and crying in your arms.  It is the inner work you do to find out how to love yourself—all of you, the darkest corners of you that the conscious mind has conveniently forgot.  And in the midst of the light and dark, shadow play of awakening, you are both alone and together.

You are both fighting this battle and it gets tiresome and it gets weary.  Twin flames pull the trigger to your own self discovery.  You will never know how deep the rabbit hole goes, because it is a process spiraling ever deeper.  There is always more to learn and discover, clear, heal, work through, so there is never a true “I can’t.”  You can and you will.

It is simply not the path for every soul on this planet.  It does not fit into any box that anyone else could try to conceive of.  It is a kind of growth that not all will experience.  It is not anything like other types of relationships because it is the energetic force that is transforming our very limitations about relationships.

But we have to try to explain this, because it is the forward progression of our conscious understanding of love.  It is the front line of new template creation.  It fits into the grand design, as aspects of its connectedness can be found in our relationship to everything that exists.  There is no one you will understand better, or seek to understand as much, as your twin flame.  And in knowing them, you know very deeply yourself.  Because they are one and the same.  In understanding this unity you can see the unity everywhere.  You can seek to understand your connection to everything and everyone, whether it is pleasant or unpleasant, and especially if it is challenging.

It is an end to the concept of war.  The masculine and feminine inside ourselves can no longer be at war. They have to integrate.  Twin flames are the outer reflection of this inner integration.  We are on the journey back to one.  Back to wholeness.  We are always so close.  But, more whole as we go. And the paradox is, the inner work creates the outer reality.

The truth is, it changes you.  It transforms you.  In ways you don’t understand until later, after you have integrated its teachings.  You are not in control of it, and certainly your ego is a puny force compared to it.  That force of life that allows your heart to beat and your cells to have oxygen and regulates your body is not under the control of your ego.  It does what it does.  It is smarter than you.

It is best to know its ways, rather than to make your ways fit into it. What can I say?  It is a mystery.  It feels like a blessing, it feels like a curse.  It is your life, your journey, your teaching, your path to tread.  Accept it.  Surrender to it.  Learn it. Love it.

Then expand and love more.

Moving Through Loss and Grief Webinar

Moving Through Loss and Grief Webinar

 Wed, Nov 11th 8-9:30 pm EST

This webinar is about the emotional healing process that we all go through when we suffer a loss. The grieving process is a necessary and healthy step towards acceptance of transitions in our lives. Loss is subjective in its effects on people–one person’s reaction to the loss of a parent for example will differ depending on their relationship with that person, and their personal psychology. There are many different types of loss so there are many ways of grieving and we will discuss them. I will also be drawing from Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ 5 stages of grief and some of her other contributions to understanding bereavement in addition to my own personal experiences and observations as a healing practitioner, counselor and medium.
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Introduction to Parapsychology, Part 2 Webinar

Introduction to Parapsychology, Part 2 Webinar

Wed, Sept 2nd

8-9:30pm EST

 Parapsychology is the scientific study of psychic phenomena, which many people are not aware of as it is not popularized in mainstream media. In part 2, I will discuss psychokinesis studies that cover mind over matter effects such as prayer, hands on healing, intention and meditation. We will cover the results of healing studies, the “feeling of being stared at,” as coined by Rupert Sheldrake, the Global Consciousness Project, studies of Transcendental Meditation, clairvoyance, and the government funded remote viewing program. I will also talk about my own experiment in remote viewing I conducted in graduate school. And we will also talk about what Dean Radin calls the “taboo of psi” an explanation as to why psi is not widely accepted by mainstream science. This is not a “woo-woo” type of lecture series, it is about science, although I will give my perspectives on the info I present.


If you are not available for the live stream, you will have access to the recording.

Also consider joining my video channel, where you have access to all of my previous webinars on various spiritual topics, which is quite a long list 😉 You also get access to all of the future webinars which are 2 times a month, including this one by joining. $19.99/month and that’s a sweeeet deal. Join here:

Hate is Bitter, Love is Rich

Dr. Emoto is famous for his experiments with water and how directed intentions affect it, outlined in the book The Hidden Messages of Water .  Here is a video from You Tube that demonstrates this.

Water, Consciousness & Intent: Dr. Masaru Emoto

As the video points out, our bodies are made up of mostly water.  Here is an experiment you can try at home for yourself, and see what happens!

First I wrote the words love and hate on separate pieces of paper and took the time to visualize and experience those emotions while holding each piece of paper separately.  I thought of someone I loved and this created the feeling of love, and someone I disliked, which I tried to amplify for the sake of the experiment.   I placed equal amounts of water from the tap into identical glasses, and taped each word to the bottom of the glass, where they were not visible and placed them in the freezer for a week.  I wanted to see if I could notice anything different visually in the way the water would freeze, similar to Emoto.

I did not notice any difference in the way the water froze, but the taste was the real test! I allowed the frozen glasses to sit on my counter for about a half hour before drinking.  What I discovered was that the “hate-filled” water was bitter tasting.  It had somewhat of a metallic taste and an aftertaste.  The “love water” was better than any water I have ever tasted.  It reminded me of the fresh spring water that I sampled several weeks ago on a camping trip in the woods.  It was smooth, soft, and rich—it just seemed like there was something extra in it that held it together.  I usually don’t notice the differences in the taste of water (whether it is from the tap or bottled) so this really surprised me.  I also tried to see if time had any affect on how the water tasted, and was surprised to discover that as time went on, the “hate-filled” water neutralized in flavor and most definitely lost its bitter elements.  Perhaps there is neutralizing love force that brings things back to a homoeostasis.

As Emoto said, there is a great lesson in the power of words, and in this case, emotions and visualizations, on water—which comprises a large percentage of our organs and tissues.  I found it equally interesting that given time, the effect of negative emotions seem to be healed or neutralized whereas the effect of positive emotion tended to remain.  It seems that one could deduce that although a negative output on our part certainly has a negative effect, healing certainly does happen—perhaps almost immediately to correct the situation.

What kind of water would you rather drink? 🙂

Radical Forgiveness

Who is not drawn towards working with forgiveness?  I think most of us have a lot of people to forgive and not doing so most certainly disrupts health and happiness (causing depression, migraines, etc.) Sometimes reaching a state where forgiveness needs to happen because of the ill effects of not doing so pushes the process forward.

One method I find useful is the audio series Radical Forgiveness based on the book by the same name authored by Colin Tipping.  I realized that his prescription is very much a cognitive exercise in re-training the brain to re-conceptualize the grievance story told by the ego and realize that this story is in fact, much larger than this.  What I like most about this approach is the spiritual understanding or acceptance that the situation has greater meaning at a soul level, in addition to understanding the differing perspectives of the one who has caused the hurt.  The aim of the program is to rid the forgiver of what is called “victim consciousness,” which is very much rooted in the ego.  The author also recognizes that forgiveness is an energetic or soul-based shift that allows for a deep level of healing for both the forgiver and the forgivee.  Forgiveness is a way to empower one’s self, understanding that allowing oneself to store and hold the negative emotions is a way to keep oneself trapped—separated from the peace that is possible.  Tipping asserts that the broader view of the situation reveals that “nothing wrong or right ever happened,” in other words, that everything happens for a reason and there are no mistakes at the spiritual level of reality.

Tipping has several re-conceptualizing steps to take in this process.  The first is a kind of radical acceptance of the situation as it is.  In actuality, it was meant to happen that way and therefore there is nothing to forgive.  It is important to understand that circumstances happen for soul growth and development, and not to the ego just to cause turmoil.  The situation should be grasped as an opportunity for learning and growth.  Also, a key ingredient in the process is faith.  It is important to give up trying to always find the reasons for everything.  We may not always know the reasons in a rational sense.  One metaphor he uses that I particularly like is a tapestry.  If you look at the back of the tapestry, it is a mess, with no predictable pattern.  But if you look at the front of the tapestry, the pattern is apparent.  In many cases humans are looking only at the back of the tapestry, but when life is viewed with a broad perspective, the patterns and reasons for events emerge.  Tipping asserts that even this can be too difficult for someone who has been traumatized, so it helps to remain open to the possibility, and be open to the miracle of things all fitting together and making sense.  There is a great deal of surrender in that statement.  Peace also has to be a choice that is made by the forgiver. I think that the work that I do helps this process by helping people to see the patterns in the “tapestry.”

I found that over the course of several weeks, working with this information and truly absorbing it is extremely challenging.  I’ve discovered that the reason is that my ego really wants to hold on to the victim mentality for reasons that I have yet to fully understand.  To create the sense of separation perhaps—because if I can separate myself from those who have hurt me—somehow, I can spare myself some of the pain.  At the soul level, however, I agree with many of Tipping’s assertions.  From examining my own life, I can definitely see that there are patterns, and that events do not happen randomly and with no purpose.  Even if it is a meaning only I have created, at least it does make some sense!

Cognitive restructuring like this takes some time, and I think it probably has its own natural timetable.  I also think healing has its own natural timetable.  Even by working with this material and method over the course of several weeks, complete forgiveness may not happen in that timeframe.  I think one of the reasons is that the emotional component has to be worked through as well.  And I feel that the only way out of the negative emotions is to go through them.  There may not be any shortcuts.  I believe that my spiritual practices (such as meditation) as well as self-examination techniques such as this one, are very important for keeping perspective and helping the healing process, but I don’t think that the entire healing process is under our control.  I am beginning to believe that the healing process has its own organic structure, similar to the way in which Elizabeth Kubler-Ross maps out the stages of grief.  I have found that even despite my impatience, these feelings never seem to make the healing process go any faster.  In fact, when I skip steps or gloss over things, they eventually return to be dealt with at a later time.  I’ve also noticed the cyclical nature of dealing with loss and grief—just when you think you are over it, something else comes up!   I feel that there are great tools out there, such as Tipping’s, that can help, but ultimately the great surrender has to be to the process itself.

John of God- Assessing a Modern Day Healer

What is most compelling to me about John of God’s approach to healing is the community that he created surrounding his work.  His work draws 500-600 people per day from all around the world.  This creates an enormous opportunity for spiritual community that is deliberately sustained by his requests and requirements.

One is that visitors wear white, fostering a sense of preparation for healing and a communal unity.  He also requires that visitors meditate prior to healing.  He encourages people to reflect on the reasons for their visits and write them down, which is a time for introspection and also a type of prayer.  He also encourages them to make choices by allowing them to select the type of healing to pursue.  This allows visitors to instill trust in their own inner truths.  The community he created speaks of an atmosphere of love that is created by having a central place for people to gather, supported by a healer.  The environment itself provides an opportunity for spiritual community to develop.  I think this type of community can increase and amplify healing energy and also serve as a support for the person who is suffering.  Those who receive more support in their life are naturally able to sustain greater healing.  Within this community, reflection and attention to Spirit create the best conditions for healing to take place.

The qualities that John of God displays point to the similarities I have noticed in many healers.  One is to allow God to work through them—John of God claims that he himself has never healed anyone.  It is the power of God and what he calls “good spirits” that assist in his work.  He is only the vehicle that makes it happen.  This resonates with my own experience as a healer.  There is a feeling that something more is happening that is beyond my control.  When I am doing an intuitive reading, my ego has to get out of the way for the information to flow.  I am in a type of meditative state that is very light, enabling me to talk, but it is not the same as waking consciousness.  Many times I do not remember what was said, and have had the experience of “witnessing” myself saying things—aware that the thought process that my ego normally employs is not operative.  How can I take credit for that? It is as if another consciousness is either running the show, or feeding information to me which I then relay.   I have also felt the presence of a great deal of love, sometimes it is made known to me that it is coming from a deceased relative and also from what I would call “guides” of the person.  The only thing that I do is show up, and make sure that I am balanced enough emotionally and spiritually prepared to do the work.

I also noticed that John of God as a child was devoted to God and dedicated to religion, and had visions.  I have had similar experiences and have noted the similarity in my research regarding the development of intuitive ability.  I have also had a lifelong interest in religion, metaphysics and spirituality which seems to be common among healers, mediums, and mystics of all sorts.

I wonder if any research has been done regarding John of God’s healing work?  I would personally be interested in learning about his methods, particularly how he feels he can best prepare himself as a channel in his work.