Twin Flame Interview

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My own understanding of the twin flame concept is undergoing a little bit of revision.  🙂  Always a good thing to be open to changes and new experiences!  So I have decided to do some interviews with my clients who identify their situations as a twin flame experience.  I do not necessarily share all the views presented by interviewing someone else but I do feel it is necessary to share experiences. This person has been a client of mine for a long time and I have always thought her experience was pretty fascinating!  Enjoy!

Based on your personal experience so far, how would you describe a TF?

As a soul extension. One who is cut from the same “soul cloth” so to speak. Another facet of  one’s self, even an alter ego.

What about your TF experience feels different than a soul mate or other relationship experiences you have had?

Not only has the intensity of it been off the charts, but I have never before had the experience of essentially seeing myself mirrored back to me in male form. Also there is this pervading sense of him being with me (on a soul level) 24/7.

What was it like to meet your TF?  

It was very scary and unsettling. I was very young and did not deal with it very well. How could one who was essentially a child (albeit a very old soul, but a child in earth years and maturity level!) be equipped to understand, let alone adequately cope with—and even embrace it—for what it was? As much as I was magnetically drawn to him and fascinated by him, I was also afraid of him. They say that “the eyes are the window to the soul”, and he had the most piercing set of eyes that I’d ever seen. I felt that those eyes were very dangerous and that he could look straight through me…into my soul. It is very difficult to put into words, but to actually meet that gaze directly was not only intimidating but also felt as if someone were shining a very bright light in my face. I found it very hard to look at (or be within close proximity of) him and probably came across as some sort of cold, excessively shy, immature brat. Yet he was completely harmless, a gentle soul, beloved of many. There was no logical reason for me to feel this way. But I didn’t put the pieces together until a profound spiritual awakening (many years later) that led to my conscious reconnection with him.

Can you explain how you came to find out or realize this person was a TF?

As stated above, I truly didn’t start to put the pieces together and explore this connection consciously until a profound spiritual awakening, several years after the brief, intense time that I met and worked with him. Essentially he came into my life, turned it upside down and then left to move on the next chapter in his life. Let me emphasize again that I was essentially a child (in earth years) when I was introduced to him in this life. I was not on a spiritual path at the time and attributed my reaction (to him) to immaturity and an overly-active imagination.

Flash forward to several years later. After a series of events, I stepped on a spiritual path and consciously began to work on myself. I always had an inner sense that there was so much more to spirituality than what has been conveyed in organized religion and had begun a quest to find my truth. I became much more serious about my spiritual practices, sometimes dedicating a couple hours a day to prayer, invocations and meditation. As I was soon to discover, one can NOT do this sort of work on self and NOT unearth things that were always buried deep within.

Upon doing all of this over a period of several months, this ancient soul connection was brought back into my conscious awareness through a series of synchronicities. Although it took awhile, at some point all of the synchronicities surrounding him became too impossible—even for a skeptic like myself—to ignore. And so I started on this journey of inquiry and extensive research. It was as if I were a sleuth trying to uncover a vast mystery. At that point, I didn’t even know what a TF was, yet materials on TFs mysteriously made their way to me. It is widely believed in spiritual circles that one should pray and ask for 3 confirmations in the physical. I got my 3 confirmations and then some! Every time I thought I was going crazy and/or imagining it—something else would happen! I reached a point where I realized that it couldn’t be anything else. It was as if the answer was staring me in the face all along, but I had simply been too dense to get it. I wasn’t able to see it until I had reached a certain level of spiritual growth.

Give us an example of the synchronicities surrounding you and your TF

If I were to attempt to document all of them, surely I would have enough to fill a book. Here are just a few examples of some of the things that I’ve experienced.

* A couple of times, I’ve randomly run into or have been paired with people who are associated with him in some way.

* I would receive a message in a dream that I would be hearing from him soon, and it would happen the very next day.

* Out of the blue, I would get asked to undertake a project at a place off the beaten path….only to find out later that this was a venue that he had been associated with as well.

*On a regular basis, I see license plates from his current residence (more than 1,000 miles away) and/or plates with his name on it. They almost always come in sets of 2. Once, a weekend that he was in town, I saw one that read “Hello **” [his initials]. I also frequently see the number combination 11:11. And this was long before I knew that people associate these numbers with TF’s. In one particular instance, upon purchasing something, the total had come to 11.11. And then I returned home to the news that he would come to visit on 11/11! It did come to pass.

*Things associated with him have manifested like crazy. Here is just one example. My TF was an extraordinarily gifted artist who created quite a legacy in my area. Around the time, I reconnected with him, I came across this really rare artifact (of one of his projects) that I didn’t even know existed. I also didn’t have a clue how it had happened to fall into my hands. Upon closer examination of it, I discovered that to my horror, it had been damaged. My efforts to mend it were in vain. Although I hated to impose, I contacted him and inquired as to how one could find a replacement. Although he graciously offer to help, even he (the brains behind the operation!)  said that another one of these would be extremely difficult to find. I decided to continue to search for it on my own. A few days after the conversation, I found myself (killing time before an appointment) in a second-hand store across town. While browsing its vast archives, I received the shock of my life..when I somehow happened to come across another copy of this most rare item!  I mean…WHAT are the chances of that?! Even more freaky is that it included an inscription on it penned by him that included the words  “Thank you for X wonderful years.” The freakiest thing of all is that I had worked with him myself for X years! Now…how does one explain that?

*I’ve had all sorts of other bizarre things happen. Once when mailing out an important professional document…I found out via the tracking service that instead of being shipped to the address at the state that borders mine, it somehow managed to get shipped by mistake to his city…more than 1,000 miles away. Again, how does one explain that? And it continues…

What kinds of energetic things do you feel surrounding your TF? 

I sense him within…always. Also, although I’m quite acclimated to these energies by now (having worked with them in previous lifetimes) there have been times when so much as hearing his name spoken, has triggered an energetic response from within.

What is the hardest part about having a TF? What helps you deal with it? 

Maintaining the silence. Having to live in a world that would probably label me as “crazy” if I came out about the connection and my spiritual experiences. What makes this connection particularly challenging (in this incarnation) is not only physical distance, but that there is also a huge age gap between my TF and I. Those of us who are on a spiritual path are aware of the fact that the age of the body has nothing to do with the age of the soul. But unfortunately, most people are conditioned by society (and their negative egos) to overly identify with their physical bodies. They haven’t fully realized that they are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience. We may have bodies, but we are NOT our bodies. So unfortunately, there are many (including him) that would most likely put us in the boxes of “old man” and “child” respectively. I don’t think I can do much to change that in this lifetime.

I am still working on better dealing with it. Spiritual practices (such as prayer and meditation) are always beneficial…and I have frequent conversations with spiritually-minded friends who’ve actually had similar experiences. It was important for me to know that I was neither alone nor going crazy. When it becomes too much to bear at times, it has been a tremendous help to have understanding friends to vent to. And I try to channel my feelings into various creative projects. If he only knew…But I’m not convinced it would be a good idea to “come out” and dump all of this on him. Surely he would think I delusional and crazy and it would creep him out majorly. I am deeply grateful for my friendship with him and do not want to jeopardize it. It is very important to know when to be silent. And to love someone unconditionally, is to accept where someone is at and let them live their life. Another issue with this connection—is that it is so much bigger than I am—there is NO way I could ever possibly convey it in words. It would most likely be taken the wrong way…and I don’t see how that would serve either one of us. So there is always a massive amount of stuff that I must process on my own.

What do you think the purpose of the situation is, or what have you learned about yourself as a result of this experience?

I continue to work at processing all of this. The challenges of this connection are such that truly there is not a day that goes by in which I don’t ask, “Why, God, oh why?” Yet I have grown and learned a lot about myself through this experience. I have learned not to associate people with their age in earth years; to see people not as bodies, but as souls temporarily wearing a human form. It is really eye-opening to encounter another person who actually comes from the same soul as you do! While there are some clear differences between us (as we are individualized personalities), in him I see so much of myself. Many aspects of his life journey and personal philosophies parallel my own. In studying his life, I have learned so much about my own soul and life purpose. He is my greatest inspiration.

Give us any advice you would give to other TFs.  

Do not become too attached to the idea of ever having that fairy tale romantic relationship with them in the physical. Just because they are a TF, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are supposed to be with them in a 3D romantic sense. This connection is so much more than that! Anyone who has ever experienced this (or any other intense spiritual connection) knows that this is not a connection for the faint of heart or spirit. The closer the connection, the harder the lessons. There is no hiding in this connection. All that must be brought up for healing will be exposed. The cold, hard reality of this is that unless both parties are willing to do the work…these connections rarely seem to work out in the physical. In many cases, a friendship with one’s TF might be preferable. The underlying lessons (presented to us in various forms) always seem to be detachment and unconditional love.

 What do you think the greater purpose is of the TF scenario for humanity? Do you think TFs are rare? What do you think about the theories out there on TFs?

From what I understand it’s all about awakening to who we ARE, integrating other aspects of Self, tapping into this reserve of pure unconditional love and radiating it out to others.  My understanding is that TFs are EXTREMELY rare. To quote Joshua David Stone (who worked closely with the Ascended Master Djwhal Khul), “It does not happen as much as people think.”  Although it is not for me to judge, it seems that many who think they are in a TF connection might in reality be dealing with a more distant soul family, soul mate or karmic connection. That’s not to say that all of these connections aren’t important, for all assist us with our spiritual growth. But I think humanity (i.e. people’s egos) in general get far too caught up in labels and the idea that there is “only one TF who is your perfect mate.” I am inclined to think that the soul is much more vast than most people think it is. Channeled material via Alice Bailey and Joshua David Stone  asks us to consider the idea that there may in fact be 12 TFs within a soul family. At this point, it goes without saying that there is no way to prove any of this. But we should be open the possibly. To grow spiritually, is to transcend our negative ego mental boxes. After all, in the scheme of things, “What the bleep do we know?”

 

 

Parapsychology needs a good theory

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Research in parapsychology delivers solid evidence for the existence of psi, ( another term for psychic phenomena.) Research Techniques such as meta-analysis allow for a combination of data from many different studies.  Long-term performance of psi abilities can be measured over many trials, increasing the efficacy and confidence levels of experimental results.    It is fascinating that the field of parapsychology reaches replicated results comparable to many other fields—even physics!  It is also heartening to consider the variability of human psychic performance—although because some scientists consider it an “extraordinary” ability natural variability does not create adequate evidence.  This does mean, though, that because we are human, psychic performance can vary on any given day. Parapsychology has everything that many more mainstream sciences can boast of—good experimental design based on the scientific method, high confidence levels in the results, statistically significant results, high levels of replicated experiments (despite the fact that 50% of replicated experiments statistically will fail!) and good evidence as a result of meta-analysis.  All of this despite the constraints that “soft sciences” tend to encounter (many psychological factors, such as experimenter effects) and the known variability and spontaneous nature of many psi experiences.  While this seems rather extraordinary, many factors inherent in the scientific established order combine to make the findings of parapsychology quite overlooked.

Yet it seems that what parapsychology lacks most is a comprehensive theory that enables the data to be rationally interpreted (after all, science is a means of explaining phenomena.)  Without this theory, many scientists simply have a difficult time accounting for the evidence (if the evidence is honored as what would occur beyond chance.) As dean Radin points out in his work, this theory-driven view (as well as pre-existing beliefs) also hinders scientists from seeing beyond their own theoretical paradigms.

Why do we lack the theory?  Although we can deduce that evidence for the existence of psi is well-established, more work needs to be done before a truly adequate and comprehensive theory can be developed.  One major area of work needs to be education surrounding the existence and evidence of psi, among scientists as well as the general population.  Without this basis, and directly addressing the very real tendencies of parapsychology to be dismissed for lots of reasons, any interesting theories that are developed will probably not be taken seriously. While parapsychology can continue to play by the rules of science, and certainly amass more evidence (as it is clear that the implications of the evidence are still not very well understood,) I argue that it is perhaps even more important that, based on Radin’s critiques, the information is not only more widely distributed but also in a sense “marketed.”

It is in part a matter of acquiring more information, in particular a variety of studies that can measure different theoretical aspects of psi.  For example, useful studies may include an examination of how psychic information may be filtered through consciousness, and the mechanisms of how this works.  Good theory as broad as the field of parapsychology will require many different types of experiments based on observed and hypothesized results—not just experiments that are still attempting to prove that psi exists.  We need more evidence to be able to adequately explain how it works.  At the same time, it will be essential to attempt to actively work against and directly address the biases that largely keep parapsychology in the fringe—despite the best evidence.

PS–I am not going to debate the ideas presented here.  That is not the purpose, I am not a parapsychologist, and other parapsychologists and scientists have already defended these ideas quite well–so me doing that is very pointless to me.  I do not have to make an argument that psi effects have ALREADY been proven.  The evidence is already out there, if you care to look, including whole books and published studies (please see some of my other articles on parapsychology for links to books you can read, which link to the actual scientific studies.)   I would not, as a matter of integrity, ever do any work under the guise of something I did not believe even existed. Obviously, I am a professional psychic.  I have evidence of its use and purpose every day.  My purpose is not to debate the science with anyone, my purpose is to do my job.  🙂

Tips to Get a Great Psychic Reading

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Please see my post on how to go about picking a qualified reader here.  Now that you have selected a reader, how can you get the most out of your reading?  Getting a great reading is not only about picking the right reader, it is also a two-way street.  Here are some things to keep  in mind.

  • Come to the session with an open mind and be willing to receive information.  It is one thing to be skeptical, it is another thing to be close-minded.  If you are coming to a reading for the wrong reasons, such as to play games with the reader, don’t do it, it is a waste of everyone’s time, and money.  Come to the reading with an open ear and heart.
  • Do not ask anything that you do not want an honest answer to.  As psychics, we are trained to be honest and to give what we get, if we are good at what we do.  If you don’t want to know about something, don’t ask (although there is no guarantee it will not come up.)  Usually, you will think that you want to know then be upset when you receive an answer you don’t like.  Remember, that nothing a psychic says takes away your free will to make changes OR to think for yourself. Readings are not about people pleasing and giving you happy info so that you can walk away temporarily feeling better.  They are meant to help you heal and to make good choices.  A good reader should EMPOWER you but to do that you have to EMPOWER yourself.  Do not give away your power to us because of our “skill.”
  • Be willing to use the information provided to reflect on yourself and to do the work on yourself.  That is the best possible gift that we can give you.  If you use the information we give to you to reflect on yourself, you will grow from it. If you are willing to take action based on what you receive, you will benefit.
  • Leave your expectations about how a reading should be, what the reader should tell you, how you want it to be, how you think the reader works/how they should work at the door.  Every reader works differently, you should do your homework to ensure that you are seeing the right reader for you.  It is not for you to tell the reader how they should be working according to what you think works best, how you saw another reader do it, etc. If we are professional we will have spent time figuring out what methods work best for us.
  • Pick the right reader for you and your needs.   If you want to communicate with someone who has passed, make sure you see a medium, and ask your loved ones in advance of the appointment to communicate with the medium.  If you know you have an issue that needs special understanding (such as soul mates) go to someone who understands those areas well.
  • Understand that we do not tell you what to do, if we are doing our jobs well—we give you guidance, and YOU decide what to do with your life, and exercise your free will.  Some people like being told what to do, as they don’t own their own power.  Other people are not open to receiving any input and are dead set on their way.  You want to be somewhere in the middle.  You must evaluate the information, and if it works with your intuition, accept it, if it does not, think it over a couple of times with an open mind, and if it really does not fit, discard it.
  •  What we tell you is not written into the stone holy book of law.  We make predictions, based on the past and the present energies in any given situation.  The future, as far as anyone who has investigated it can tell, is not written in stone.  There are some things which seem more certain than others, we can’t always explain why, but a good reader can tell you what the probability of any situation is given its current energetic ‘leaning.’  If you are not sure, ask.  There are likelihoods, there are directions that energy flows in, there are leanings and probabilities, soul lessons and plans, other people’s soul lessons and plans, your free will, and the free will of others.  It is complicated.  We tell you the way things are leaning so that if you like it, you keep doing what you are doing, or you add something that will help, if you DON’T like it, you can make changes and adjustments to get a different outcome.  That is what a reader does.  A reader does not tell you “it is going to be this way no matter what,” without giving you choices, options, and insight, and if they do not….they are not doing their job.
  • Accept that you may hear something you don’t want to hear, while we are here to help you, we are not here to tell you a “happy ending story.”  If we are good at what we do, we will tell you the truth of what we get AND help you to move forward and make choices.  Don’t pay us to lie to you, pay us to tell you the truth 🙂  Most people say they feel better after a reading, if the reader was empowering, no matter what the information is.  However, personal growth sometimes gets uncomfortable.  If you hear something you don’t like, ask more about it, and ask WHAT you can do about it to make it the best outcome for all concerned.
  • We reflect things back to you that you need to be aware of and to know, but we are not 100% right or accurate.  We must accurately interpret information that is subtle, difficult in coming across, and sometimes comes in bits and pieces.  This is not an exact science.  At times, we do not interpret correctly.  If it does NOT feel right to you it is either 1) something you do not want to hear or deal with that you have pushed out of your conscious mind, and therefore feels quite uncomfortable 2) we have misinterpreted our impressions.  Please think over both of these possibilities before discarding information.
  •  Ask questions! Make sure your concerns are answered and that you understand what we have said to you. If you don’t get it, ask!  Also, it is possible that we are misinterpreting some detail–stop us and ask us if you think it may apply in some other way.  Sometimes we need help from you to put something in its proper context (the whole reading should not be this way, but it will happen from time to time.)  That is why we ask questions (if we do.)  We are trying to clarify what is happening with what we receive and relate it to you.  Some readers work by allowing you to ask questions (I do), others prefer to give info then have you ask questions.  But at some point, you will have the opportunity to give input and to clarify. Take it!  Understand that your life–past, present and future–with all of its facets, is a large ground to cover.  We cannot cover it all in 30 minutes or 60 minutes, so take control of your session and ask what you want to ask.  It also helps some readers (such as myself) to focus on what you need and want to know.  Some of you will want to see if we can pick up on things first (testing us,) which is in part understandable, but what happens is we just ask questions in our head anyway to get to the answers (this is a “general” reading.)   If you have a specific question, save us (and you!) the time and let’s get to the point.  You don’t have to tell us everything or even any great detail, but help us by asking the right questions. Ask and you shall receive 🙂
  • Understand that if the loved one you wish to speak with is not coming through, this is just how it is meant to be.  It does not mean anything about how much they loved you, or didn’t, it simply means it is not the right time to connect.  When they “call” us (the medium), they have a reason for it.  Much like living humans, when we call them (attempt to connect without THEM making the initiative), they might not answer, or…they might not have much to say.  When they show up in the reading they do so for specific reasons.  Be open to others who may show up, you do not have to know those who have passed well for them to come through to you.  Likewise, it is possible for whatever reason, that your reader is just not connecting with you.  In that case, any respectable reader will tell you so within the first 5 minutes of the reading, and give you your money back (if applicable.)  Don’t take it personally, it happens very rarely for all of us, but it does happen to all of us.  Ask for a referral to another reader and don’t wrack your brain trying to figure it out (as none of my colleagues have figured it out yet, either!)
  •  If when your reading is over, you need more clarity on what occurred, feel free to contact me and ask.  I am willing to clarify what I receive in a reading for my clients (but please know that this may not apply to every reader.) This is only for information that we have already covered in a previous reading.  Please respect a reader’s time limits for readings while they are going on.  We may have other clients waiting for us.  And please respect a reader’s personal time.  When we are not doing a reading for you, we are not “on.”  Many of us have a procedure we follow for tuning in, and we are not tapped in to you every minute of every day.  We have times when we are not working like everyone else, please respect that.  Also, please respect our time for setting up appointments.  If you can’t make an appointment, please let us know as soon as you know.  While we understand that your concerns may be urgent for you, we have lives also, and we can’t always fit you in “immediately.”  We also often have a lot of people seeking us out.  Please be patient, and it will be worth it 🙂

Readers are not here to give you personal opinions, judgement, advice column information.  We are here to go within, consult our intuition, and to come back with helpful, useful, empowering–insight.  It is meant to be a positive experience, not an ego trip for the reader.  But you cannot have a positive experience without a positive attitude, so please come to us with the mind set of being able to take our information into account, match it with our own intuition and inner sense, and then make your own informed decisions.